MASTURBATION

MASTURBATION

Masturbation is a manual erotic stimulation of the genitals or other erotic regions, often to orgasm, either by oneself or a partner. Figuratively, it is a vain activity. In simpler terms, when one masturbates, the intention is to arouse oneself unto climax either by touching of sensitive sensual body parts in motions that depict the real acts of sex (thrusting, fondling, caressing etc.)

Masturbation is usually medically permissible with the notion that it helps the individual to relieve the sexual tension that could have been generated over time and the process of ejaculation by the man and squirt by the lady releases enzymes that help improve homeostasis (ie. A regular normal functioning of the body system). In my own view, I believe it does much more harm than good to those who indulge in the act.

Masturbation is usually a form of addiction and as all addictions go, there is a demon attachrd and a consistent need for the act to be done if not repeatedly but in close intervals in order for sanity to be retained by the addict. A tobacco smoker becomes addicted up to the point of becoming needy and restless even in the oddest of times (e.g. in the middle of the night), such that if he doesn't have a stick of cigarette in the house he doesn't mind going to knock on the door of the cigar-salesman in the bid to get one. Worse cases exist with addicts of hard drugs, due to the effect of these drugs, this set wouldn't mind doing unimaginable hurtful criminal things in order to get some form of gratification, one that comes only by puffing a huge smoke of a hallucinogene. All addictions should be avoided like plagues.

The act of masturbation is usually a first aid point for sexually over hyped individuals who are not married or are being sexually deprived or unsatisfied by their spouses. Nymphomaniacs are quite a terrible breed when it comes to sexual activities. This type of people can do just anything for the pleasure of sex and wouldn't mind going through pain just to achieve this and are many times never satisfied. They are easily prone to committing abominations such as incest, orgies and even bestiality, all for sexual gratification.

The assumed balanced that those that masturbate tend to hang onto is that self sexual gratification doesn't equate to sexual immortality saying that atleast there is no physical contact with another person, forgetting the word of GOD which says that fornication isn't barely by physical contact but even the mindful lusting for another is (Matt. 5:28).

The heart of man is the seat of his emotions, the good, the bad and ugly (Prov. 4:23), all that would make or mar a man brews out from the heart, that is why there is an urgent need to daily guard the heart in a bid to ensure that all that comes out from it to inform the individual is good, leading him aright. Herein lies a risk faced by those that masturbate, as the thoughts of their hearts that lead them into the act are always sexually oriented and when perhaps they are not married, such that they could share that moment with their spouses and are too moral to pick up a harlot, they would prefer to stay behind a closed door to feed their sexual desires.

One thing is sure, and it is that fornication (masturbation) is a sin against your body, your body which is the temple of the Lord, one which is supposed to be declared sanctified holy unto the Lord always (1 Cor. 6:19-20). In truth, masturbation or other forms of sexual self-gratification is tauntamont to defiling the temple (abode) of the Holy Spirit.

MAJOR CAUSES OF MASTURBATION

EXPOSURE TO SEXUALLY EXPLICIT MEDIA CONTENT (VIDEOS, BOOKS, AUDIO) - Now herein lies the major source of masturbation triggers. The internet is today loaded with millions of media content all explicitly sexual. You need not go far at all before you bump into a pornographic item. These days even mainstream movies, mousic videos and even public advertisements loosely make use of sexual content to sell their products so whether consciously or not, there is a general tendency to feed on sexually explicit materials. Curiosity they say killed the cat, a young man or woman hears something strange about any topic and intends to gain sufficient knowledge, types the subject into the Google search engine and before you know it a link to a pornographic video pops up or something just similar to suggest the idea. By the time you click upon it, there comes an attraction to stay and watch what happens, and as soon as you do, physical human nature kicks in, hormones begin to build up and the need to climax becomes greater than common sense.


AFTER-THOUGHTS OF A SEXUAL OR ALMOST SEXUAL ESCAPADE - Many that have the privilege or boldness or should I say lack curiosity to venture deep into pornographic materials still could be victims of masturbation when they tend to recollect past sexual action or almost actions. You just begin to remember clearly how your body felt at the heat of the moment and the same nerves/hormones begin to rise once again and the need to climax becomes once again greater than common sense.

Maybe not so cogent/important are also these causes - Loneliness, Boredom, Joblessness. If one is lonely, missing someone dear, is bore and jobless and is not properly guided, chances are that such person would veer online and land into pornographic content and as usual the same nerves/hormones begin to rise once again and the need to climax becomes once again greater than common sense.

The phrase "and the same nerves/hormones begin to rise once again and the need to climax becomes once again greater than common sense" is repeated in all of these causes because for a masturbator once it starts, nothing seems reasonable anymore except the need to climax, even if there is a time in the middle of the arousal that he feels a need to stop, he would on his own fight off that urge and make sure he climaxes. Now for those that masturbate with some form of morality, as soon as the climax reaches, guilt, INCREDIBLE GUILT sets in. A form of regret based on "why really did I do this?" begins to brew. This guilt is almost similar to seeing the devil laugh with a huge grin on his face saying "yes I made this one fall again"

Masturbation is a sure relationship destroyer. Many times those who masturbate find it difficult to hold any meaningful conversation with someone of the opposite sex without the thought of sex. They tend to loose their identity in the general public because they prefer solitary confinement, a place where no one would disturb the process which has eventually become solace to them.

Like it has been earlier mentioned, every addiction has a demon attached to it, if this is not so, many determined people would have since jumped off that ship, if for nothing but for the guilt that comes after the act. In order to deal with this demon so he doesn't drag one away from that which ultimately matters - RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD, permit me to point out these

1. Pray for deliverance from the bondage that masturbation is. A strongman can only be defeated by another who is far more stronger than he is, tying him up, bound hands and feet (Matt. 12:29, Mark. 3:27). JESUS alone is able to defeat the demon that is behind the addiction of masturbation. No determination alone can guarantee you victory, the name of JESUS alone can.

2. Since these thoughts stem out from the heart, rather load up your heart with the word of GOD. If the time to masturbate comes and there is no thought in the heart to start from, since the heart is now filled with scriptures, many times the thought dies there.

3. Select better associations. It is no lie, infact there is no need to deceive ourselves 1Cor.  15:33 is so true. It says "Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners." He with whom you spend your "ear-time" is most likely going to have a good enough influence on you. If you are blessed and the fellow is "good word" oriented, blessed are you but if on the otherwise,  then change of influence source is seriously adviced. Mind who you spend time chatting with on social media, whose wall you are always fond of following etc. Associations could also include TV shows, musical videos, all these also have the influence to inform your decisions.


4. Confide in a physical presence, someone you can be accountable to. It could be a pastor, friend, parent. Someone who you could share the incidents with and would certainly be able to guide you through overcoming.

Knowledge is Power, know that saying NO to masturbation is possible and refusing to masturbate in actions is equally very possible. Choose today, make up your mind, invite GOD into the matter and receive your victory.

GOD BLESS YOU.